Divorce is destructive. It destroys the lives of individuals – lives of those who were in love once upon a time and lives of children who are not in anyway responsible. It makes enemies out of other people such as in-laws and other relatives and sometimes, common friends. It takes a lot of energy to fight it and rebuild lives. Divorce does not happen overnight. It happens over time. As gaps between a couple increase and as they drift apart they finally break their ties in the name of divorce.
Common reasons for a divorce are failure in communicating with one another, losing intimacy physically and emotionally, hating each other due to uncompromising attitudes, etc. Unhappy marriages end in divorce. Can you avoid a divorce? Probably yes, if both partners want to give their marriage another chance. Here are a few suggestions on how a couple can prevent a divorce:
Compatibility is a major factor in a marriage - if one would choose a person who has the same viewpoints and values about life, many differences could be avoided.
Discuss the issues – a husband and wife must deal with conflicts by discussing about them openly. They should listen to each other’s opinion with regard to each other’s views. This is the healthy way to resolve conflicts.
Invest some time on intimacy – a couple that wishes to stay together must spend quality time together. Amidst busy life styles, allotting time for each other makes both the persons involved feel special about each other. They should make it a regular practice to spend private times as often as possible. This would keep the love in their relationship fresh forever
Friendship in partnership works wonders - Friends are those who accept us as we are. So if a wife is able to accept her husband as he is and treat him as her best friend how could they go as far as divorce? Friendship within a marriage relationship would only make their bond stronger.
Be a team against life problems - Work as a team in facing failures and disappointment in life. When you are together and meet the challenges you get stronger to face them. Instead of blaming the other for troubling incidences take responsibility and shoulder the problems together.
Feel free to express your emotions - you may feel negative emotions such as anger and hurt once in a while. It is natural and healthy to let out emotions. But make sure you do not carry them for too long. Release the emotions and forget about negative feelings to avoid bitterness.
Be honest with each other - The most important reason for failure in marriage is infidelity. If there is no trust in a relationship how could there be any intimacy? To maintain a long lasting relationship couples should stay honest and faithful to each other.
Marriage happens when two persons fall in love. Divorce happens when the same two persons fall out of love. It is up to you if you want to fall in or fall out of love, think and act!
