Tips for a sustained marriage from those who had done it.

Ask Those Who Have A Sustained Marriage

Not every marriage is a success. These days especially 50 percent of marriages end up in divorce. What makes a marriage sustain for a long time? Most of the old couples have lived a long married life. The younger generations wonder how these couples are able to keep their marriage going when theirs fall apart within a short period after marriage.

Many of the couples from earlier generations agree that they have been practicing certain qualities that have helped their marriage stay in tact. If you ask them they would list the following qualities:

- Learn to survive within your means – finance is the main cause for many a break up. If you envy other people’s possessions you tend to compare and belittle your husband’s capacity. So be happy with what you have and live within your income

- Maintain a good physical appearance - you need to keep yourself healthy looking. You have to maintain your physical health by a proper diet and exercise. Remember, it was your looks that attracted the man to you initially? Even as you grow with age, you can age gracefully.

- Develop a good sense of humor – a sense of humor lightens up your life. You can learn to just laugh away those minor problems in life.

- Participate in community activities – you build a strong social life for your family by involving yourself in community activities or social service. The quality of your marriage improves with a good circle of friends and a healthy community.

- Be responsive to your partner’s moods – try to respect and respond to your partner’s moods. When he is feeling low try to be more understanding and supportive.

- Admit your faults – it would do good to apologize if you know you are at fault. This will certainly bring the couple closer together.

- Forgive your partner – if your partner has made mistakes forget and forgive him. After all, no one is perfect. You can be broadminded and forgive him.

- Share your good and bad feelings – learn to tell good and bad things about each other. Feel free to have disagreements. Be open to each other’s differences. Tolerance is one of the major factors in sustaining a healthy marriage.

- Share domestic chores – It would be nice to share the work at home because it would lessen the burden on one person. You may also have more time for yourselves. Sharing just shows your generosity and kindness towards each other.

- Surprise each other with gifts – who wouldn’t like gifts? Surprising your partner with gifts is an affectionate gesture. Even if there is no special occasion such as Christmas or Thanksgiving you can create the festive mood just by giving each other gifts. A surprise dinner or trip to Bahamas? Anything would lift your spirits.

- Be a good friend and companion – you could show interest and encourage your partner to paint or draw or whatever he is good at by being at his side. A constant companionship is a constant source of inspiration.

Develop these qualities and join the list of those who have sustained their marriages for long!